Assertiveness is about the choices you make

I’ve always loved this quote about assertiveness and I think it’s because it reveals so much about the level of respect we hold, not only for others, but for ourselves as well.

Our attitudes and behaviours hold the key to our successes and although I’ve always recognised that being assertive creates the best results, I’ve tended to hold a very text book definition of what it means ie to stand up for your own rights without violating the rights of others.  However, over the last while, I’ve realised that it’s so much more.  Through the conversations that I’ve been having with a variety of colleagues, Continue reading

Do people trust you?

Have you ever found yourself sugar coating some news or perhaps not even saying it at all because you’ve been afraid of the consequences of sharing?  I know I have.  All those thoughts of ‘how will the other person react?’, ‘how will it impact me?’, ‘will they still value/love me for who I am?’ and if it’s giving constructive feedback about them ‘will they hold it against me?’

When people don’t feel at ease to speak up, there’s never Continue reading

Manage the Voice before it manages YOU!

As you know I love my job and can’t imagine ever doing anything else.  It can be a little overwhelming at times with peaks and troughs of work, ever growing ‘to do’ lists and jobs that slot in the diary at the last minute but I wouldn’t swap it for the world.  I love researching latest thinking and creating materials to help my clients achieve amazing outcomes.  And of course, I love the actual time I spend with each and every client as there’s always some two way learning.

Funnily enough though, there are some days when I get niggling doubts about whether I’m the right person to do what I do.  One of my values is about being competent Continue reading

Disciplines for success

When we start a new year we often take the opportunity to review what went well during the last year and what we could do to make it even better in the next 12 months.  I carried out a similar exercise over the Christmas period and I thought I’d share it with you as it linked into what I’d written about in my last newsletter.  You may remember that I’d already started some work identifying where I was hampering some of my achievement. I decided to explore this work further and use my time off to explore where I’d allowed my lack of action and busyness to impede my results personally and professionally.  I decided to use a well-known model in the coaching world called The Wheel of Life.  I love it because it’s so visual and easy to use, like a lot of my tools and techniques!

When I use the Wheel of Life, I relabel the sections so that are more meaningful to me.  You might find it useful Continue reading

Are you in the 95% or the 5%?

Have you ever started a new hobby full of passion and focus, really energised to achieve the results and even when you’ve had a few set-backs, you’ve been able to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and get back on track? When we’re in this frame of mind we think we’re invincible and we’ll always be able to work in this way. However, in reality, we Continue reading