O is for Optimism

During ‘lock-down’, rainbows have become such a sign of optimism and spreading hope.  I’ve loved seeing all the handmade ones drawn on pavements or adorning windows in thanks to the NHS.

Optimism is key to navigating the times we find ourselves in at the moment.  Yet, whenever I talk about the benefits of having an optimistic outlook, I always feel the need to go to great lengths to discuss the difference between optimism and positivity as the former often gets a bad rap, often seen as being very Pollyanna-ish and not in touch with reality.  When I think about optimism I see at as a belief that the future is positive.  I’m not in denial Continue reading

N is for networking

I don’t think we ever stop networking. With every connection we make we give an impression of what value we bring to the world and I don’t mean in a salesy way. Even if your connections aren’t looking for your skills in that moment, they’ll remember you and your passion for what you do – whether that’s in a good way on not!

When we make great connections it’s like recruiting our sales force. They become ignited by our love for what we do. Therefore, it’s crucial they know what it is we actually do, because if they don’t, they’ll never think to recommend us; a lesson I learned many years ago when I worked in financial services.

My mum has always been my biggest fan. However, it wasn’t until she was speaking to one of my team, by complete coincidence, that I realised she had no idea what I did! Since starting my own business, she has played a fundamental role in checking everything I put out to the world. If she doesn’t get it, no-one else will.

So the learning from this quote is to check with those closest to you to see if they can describe what you do with clarity and ease. If they can’t, change your elevator pitch or the words you use to describe what you do. You’ll be helping your sales team to sell the value you bring to the world, which is crucially important right now.

M is for Mental Toughness

I feel as if I’ve known this quote all my life, ingrained from a young age and now the root of my optimistic approach to whatever I do. I used to think it was the same for everyone, however I realise that it isn’t the case. You see we’re only ever as strong as that voice in our heads and when it’s working for us, we’re unstoppable. When we fall over, we get back up and try all over again. Yet, when the voice is doom and gloom, it can demotivate us, we can ask our selves ‘why bother?’ and we’re much more likely to give up.

Michael Jordan once said ‘I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.’

We’ve all learned so many things throughout our lives and we need to continually challenge those experiences, thoughts, attitudes and habits to make sure we are achieving our potential. Some things will need unlearning and relearning to serve us better, which isn’t easy. However, if we think we can, we really can.

I’m holding a workshop with my colleague, Judith Kriechefski, on 16th July to share ways to build up our mental toughness and resilience. Why not join us. It’s going to be a 90 minute session, which will be highly interactive and provide you with some very practical activities to use straight away. Click on the link to find out more. https://lnkd.in/d8QKMp3

Comparisons – why do it?

So how are you doing?  Are you feeling excited about easing out of lockdown or are you a little worried?  My emotions are telling me that I’m probably in the latter category!!  Although I’m being sensible, I’m worried about a second spike in July and I’m finding myself riding that corona-coaster of emotions.  However, I’m using all my tools and skills to help me be resilient and focused on what I can do rather than worrying about what I can’t.

So a topic I’d like to talk about today is something I’ve noticed in myself during lockdown as well as observing it in some colleagues and clients.  It’s the subject of comparing ourselves to others.  I know it’s a natural thing to do, but Continue reading

L is for listening

As we’re on L in our alphabet series, I was spoilt for choice with the number of quotes that flashed through my mind about listening.  Stephen Covey’s ‘seek first to understand and then be understood’ or Winnie the Pooh telling us to be patient when someone isn’t listening because that person may have some fluff in their ear.  However, it was this quote by the Dalai Lama, that I settled on.

How many times do we hog a conversation because we want to get our thoughts and ideas, knowledge and skills across to others to show a different perspective on a particular subject?  Could it even be that we want to prove that they are wrong and we are right?!  Yet when we stop being on transmit Continue reading