V is for Vulnerability

When you first became a manager did you feel that you had to have all the answers to be good at your job? I did! It made me feel like the expert, justifying my promotion! I wanted to be seen as the ‘go to’ person who could cope with anything.  It wasn’t long before I noticed the downside of this approach! Lack of congruency started to dissolve trust, being seen as the expert meant others relied on me to make decisions.

When I started to share some of, what I saw as, my weaknesses I have to admit, I was anxious. Would people use them against me? What I learnt was that when you are being vulnerable, it’s the only time Continue reading

Smiling is infectious too

I can’t believe I missed World Smile Day last Friday.  Being such a smiley person, I don’t often need an excuse, but as we’re all having such a testing year I thought it would be good to extend the smiles for a few more days and see how many people we can infect with our positivity.

Smiling and laughter is so important to us all, yet it’s something we tend to do much less as we grow older.  Did you know the following facts: Continue reading

T is for

Transformation is what I’m focusing on in this quote as I think it’s something that we’re all going through at the moment, but are we all aware of the journey we’ve travelled so far and the milestones we’ve achieved? Periodically I’m finding that I’m giving myself a hard time and asking whether I’m doing enough. Yet when I look back to March of this year, my life has been full of learning and I’ve made some major adjustments to the way I live and work, which I’m sure is the same for many of us. Both customers and suppliers have had to adapt and transform during this period to provide and buy our products in an online world?  There’s been a lot of unlearning and relearning going on and checking out how we all show up differently in this new world. Of course, letting go of the past, our comfort zones and everything else that is familiar takes courage and I feel that I’m continually riding on the edge of my comfort zone!

So as a reminder to myself, as much as to others who are giving themselves a hard time, remember that when we change the way we look at things the things we look at change. Take a moment now to reflect upon how you have stretched and transformed yourself during this period and see how can you use that learning to help those around you succeed too?

S is for

Everyone’s story is completely different at the moment.  Our lives have been impacted hugely through this pandemic and it looks as if it will continue to be so for a good while yet.  Many are living in a period where we’re forced to embrace uncertainty but also, in many cases, survival.  It’s another period of reinvention for both businesses and individuals and the only way we can work through it is by learning to lean into it and recognise that today is tough, but it will get better.  Did you know that by thinking this way, we automatically help our brain release some of the endorphins to stop it from feeling ‘stuck’?  In the last 14 years working for myself I’ve experienced a number of periods of uncertainty which has caused different levels of anxiety.  However, a key learning for me has been not to let the inner negative narrative take over as it just leads to a downward spiral especially at a time when we need to focus on where and how we can add value.

Whilst it’s scary hearing about the rise in unemployment figures and the impact of recession, it’s crucial we focus on what we can each do to adapt and survive as we move forward.  Work probably won’t look anything like it has in the past so take time to understand your transferrable skills and how you can utilise them in this new world.  If you’ve worked for one employer in the past and they can’t afford to keep you onboard fulltime, perhaps you can research where you can provide your expertise to others to fill the remaining hours you’d like to work.

I have a note on my phone that pops up every day.  It say’s ‘what would you do today if you weren’t afraid?’  Don’t let fear get in the way of your survival.