Day 24 of F.O.O.D. – using NOUGAT to help you say ‘no!’

Wow, I’ve made it! Day 24 of my FOOD Advent Calendar and I’m sharing my Christmassy NOUGAT to help you reset some boundaries. In many conversations this year there seems to be an expectation we’re available 24/7 just because we’re WFH. This isn’t sustainable. Let’s practice being more assertiveness otherwise we’re going to suffer from burnout!

When you say ‘yes’ to something, you say no to something else. Prioritise the right things

If you find it hard to say no, observe others who are good at being assertive. What techniques would work for you?

Understand the triggers that make you say yes when you really mean no.  Is it because you feel you ought to, or embarrassed to say no?

You will know when you really want to say ‘no’ because your gut feel tells you. Listen to it and tell the other person how you feeling using the ‘I’ word

If the other person is acting aggressive, make sure you stay in control. Remember your attitude affects your behaviour which in turn affects their attitude and behaviour.

Words are only one piece of the communication! Tone and body language can often give us away! Try practising saying ‘no’ out loud in front of the mirror so that your tone and body language are congruent with your words!

 

Assertiveness is about the choices you make

I’ve always loved this quote about assertiveness and I think it’s because it reveals so much about the level of respect we hold, not only for others, but for ourselves as well.

Our attitudes and behaviours hold the key to our successes and although I’ve always recognised that being assertive creates the best results, I’ve tended to hold a very text book definition of what it means ie to stand up for your own rights without violating the rights of others.  However, over the last while, I’ve realised that it’s so much more.  Through the conversations that I’ve been having with a variety of colleagues, Continue reading