X is for Xenophilia

As I’ve been searching for a word beginning with X for my alphabet series, I’ve come across a new word and it describes me!  Xenophilic – a person fascinated with cultures; they love travelling and embracing other cultures.  This is me in both my personal and professional life.  When I Continue reading

V is for Vulnerability

When you first became a manager did you feel that you had to have all the answers to be good at your job? I did! It made me feel like the expert, justifying my promotion! I wanted to be seen as the ‘go to’ person who could cope with anything.  It wasn’t long before I noticed the downside of this approach! Lack of congruency started to dissolve trust, being seen as the expert meant others relied on me to make decisions.

When I started to share some of, what I saw as, my weaknesses I have to admit, I was anxious. Would people use them against me? What I learnt was that when you are being vulnerable, it’s the only time Continue reading

J is for Judgement

As I take my daily walk I have been listening to a number of podcasts, one in particular being Brené Brown’s ‘Unlocking Us’. I’m finding each episode extremely thought provoking. There are many times when I can’t believe the observations she makes, because I thought I was the only one who had them and then other times when I’m walking around, mouth wide open as I see things from a completely different perspective.

In one conversation, Brené was talking with David Kessler about grief and finding meaning. It’s in this episode that I found the inspiration for the letter J in my quote alphabet.

David said that ‘judgement demands punishment’ which hit a real chord with me. In fact, I had to keep replaying the rest of the episode over again because my mind locked onto that quote and I locked out the rest of the episode! I became hung up on how many times in the past, subconsciously I had either psychologically punished myself or others when I had gone into judgement mode. So the lesson is quite simple with this quote. When you find yourself jumping into judgement about yourself or others, take off those extra large boots projecting that pain and shame, take a deep breath and instead be curious, ask questions and reveal some of the blind spots you may have in your own thinking.