Day 15 of F.O.O.D. – using CAPERS to build your resilience

Day 14 of my FOOD Advent Calendar is about Resilience and I’d like to share my CAPERS technique, a versatile ingredient for adding distinct flavour to whatever you are doing.

I think it’s really important to understand that challenges will happen and the best thing is to plan for them so that we don’t feel knocked off course if and when they do.  Also it’s good to remember that we often learn most from challenges and things not going right first time.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  When we include others we can see the same situation from many perspectives.

Problem solve by looking at what you can do rather than what you can’t and then getting started

Create the most helpful environment to help you thrive eg stop reading social media and comparing yourself to others

Understand your daily routines.   Who and what is helping and hindering you?  What can you do to alter them?

Develop your positive self-talk as it builds your confidence and self esteem.  And when you hear yourself saying you can’t do something, add ‘yet’ to the end of the sentence.  It will give you a sense of optimism that you will be able to do it in the future

F is for Failure

In my continuing alphabet I’ve chosen F for failure because so many people let the fear of failure get in the way of them even starting to work towards their dreams and goals never mind achieve them. Yet, when I ask people if they walked as soon as they found their feet or were able to ride a bicycle the first time they got in the saddle, some look at me as if I’m from a different planet.

When things go wrong we often experience some of greatest learning points. From this, we are able to dust ourselves off and start again tweaking our style or technique to make sure we’re better next time. Think of Dyson and his vacuum cleaner or Edison with the lightbulb, they weren’t overnight successes. When it didn’t work first time, it was the learning that motivated both inventors to overcome these challenges and go on to achieve greater things.

So, don’t let the fear of failure get in the way of your success. Think about the challenges you have had in the past and what you have learnt from them that have made you more resilient today and then put them to work to help you move forward tomorrow.