Day 15 of F.O.O.D. – using CAPERS to build your resilience

Day 14 of my FOOD Advent Calendar is about Resilience and I’d like to share my CAPERS technique, a versatile ingredient for adding distinct flavour to whatever you are doing.

I think it’s really important to understand that challenges will happen and the best thing is to plan for them so that we don’t feel knocked off course if and when they do.  Also it’s good to remember that we often learn most from challenges and things not going right first time.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  When we include others we can see the same situation from many perspectives.

Problem solve by looking at what you can do rather than what you can’t and then getting started

Create the most helpful environment to help you thrive eg stop reading social media and comparing yourself to others

Understand your daily routines.   Who and what is helping and hindering you?  What can you do to alter them?

Develop your positive self-talk as it builds your confidence and self esteem.  And when you hear yourself saying you can’t do something, add ‘yet’ to the end of the sentence.  It will give you a sense of optimism that you will be able to do it in the future

Comparisons – why do it?

So how are you doing?  Are you feeling excited about easing out of lockdown or are you a little worried?  My emotions are telling me that I’m probably in the latter category!!  Although I’m being sensible, I’m worried about a second spike in July and I’m finding myself riding that corona-coaster of emotions.  However, I’m using all my tools and skills to help me be resilient and focused on what I can do rather than worrying about what I can’t.

So a topic I’d like to talk about today is something I’ve noticed in myself during lockdown as well as observing it in some colleagues and clients.  It’s the subject of comparing ourselves to others.  I know it’s a natural thing to do, but Continue reading

I is for Inner dialogue

I’ve decided to focus on the inner voice with a quote from Lou Tice, the founder of The Pacific Institute.

If you don’t control your self-talk, it controls you – how right it is. I’ve thought for years that I couldn’t translate the cultural and emotional aspects of my work into a virtual world and used that as a limiting belief. And when we have a limiting belief our inner voice gets to work letting us know all the reasons it won’t work! Mine stopped me from even trying to do it never mind test the market! However in the last couple of weeks and as the world continues to change, I’ve had to move some work for my clients with The Pacific Institute into an online world and I’ve found it fun and rewarding and the feedback has been better than I could have ever dreamed of receiving.

So my question to you is what is your self talk stopping you achieve at the moment? Could you create some clarity about what you want to achieve and then determine the dolly steps and support you would need to make you feel competent and confident to make it happen? If so, you could quieten your negative inner voice and let it see that you mean business! Good luck

Do you talk to yourself in a negative or positive way?

Earlier this year I decided that I was going to start pushing myself out of my comfort zone a bit more often. There are two places that we don’t learn or grow, when we’re in our comfort zone or fire-fighting. That’s because in either place we don’t consciously think about how we can achieve the best result. So I knew that I was going to find some of my challenges stimulating but I hadn’t anticipated how much more aware I would become of my internal voice. Now for someone who is pretty extrovert and Continue reading